Difference Between Advising And Shaming
Difference Between Advising And Shaming by Ibn Rajab Al Hanbali In this monumental works of the great shaikh Ibn Rajab Al Hanbali, the author provides essentail deatil in discussing key points dealing with differences that arise between the Prople of Sunnah, and the manners and etiruette one should acquire when differing occurs. He beautifully illustrates the difference betweeen advising that is encouraged, and shaming that is not permitted. The difference between sincere advising and shaming Ibn Rajab al Haafidh Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali, in his monograph al-Farq bain al Naseehah wal-Taeer, devotes one section to the topic of On the Difference between advising about ones short-comings in order to return from that, and rebuking and scolding for ones sins. It reads as follows: And from this is that one would tell a man something that he disliked to his face, and if that was with the purpose of sincerely advising him, then that is good. And one of the Salaf said to his brother, Do not advise me until you can say something to my face which I dislike. And the salaf disliked to command good and forbid evil in this way [i.e. with shaming and re-probation], and they loved to be discrete about what went on between the enjoiner of good and the one being enjoined, for verily this is one of the signs of sincere advising. For verily it is not the purpose of the sincere adviser to broadcast the short-coming of the one whom he is advising, and verily his purpose is only to remove the corruption which has occurred in him. And as for broadcasting and manifesting the short-coming, then this is part of what Allah and His Messenger have forbidden. Allah the Exalted said: Indeed, those who like that immorality should be publicized among those who have believed will have a painful punishment in this world and the Hereafter. And Allah knows and you do not know. And if it had not been for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy.